Celebrating Everyday As It Is 庆祝每一天最真实的模样
Every country I go, I discovered sth about myself. I am very grateful for all my experiences, even thought there is no way to know what makes one thing happen and not another, what leads to what, what destroys what, what causes what to flourish, or take another course. I am still keep exploring, because part of me knows that’s my deepest heart desire is, to experience life as it is, not as it should be.
Last Dec, I had my 33 year’s birthday, after celebrating with my parents and my friends, I realize that among all the experiences I have created in the past 4 years since I started FlywithMaggie, one thing stands out, I became an inspirational and interesting person, I always have stories to tell and people are always intrigued by my stories.
Then I realized another thing, People like you not because how interesting you are as person, but how much you are interested in other people’s lives. When I tell my stories, I also understand how important is it to make your audience feel related to your stories, because it’s not just about you, it’s about them. How they feel inspired by your stories, and how your stories can affect them or even change their lives.
“Do u know when I was like 4 year old , I always know I am not from earth, I felt like an alien, But that time, I didn’t care, I know I was here for a reason, Then I entered elementary school , the system strained me. Tried to make me a horse haha. If I was a unicorn , my horn was gone, you can take horn out of a unicorn, but you can’t take unicorn out of its core.”
“Forest has this fascinating atmosphere which makes me feel that I am either in a movie – Alice in the wonderland or a different dimension. As a city dweller, I always love the smell and sensation forest offers me, I feel more alive here.”
Those are the stories I shared with my audience.
5 years ago, if you told me that I would be traveling to 40 countries in the next 4 years, I would laugh at you out loud. Now looking back, I have no idea what made me brave enough to pull it off, All I knew was Life didn’t happen to me, I simply just couldn’t bear the old me anymore, I have to either change of belief system, or change my behavior. I chose both.
Now, I am also shifting my focus on Personal Development, Life coaching, and facilitating workshops and believe that the wisdom I have gained along the years is making me a true inspirational speaker who are not afraid to stand in front of 1000 people and tell them My Crazy Story about “How I shift my 9-5 life to a life I don’t need a vacation from. ”
In Dec, with the help of my friend Kimberly, we pulled off our first collaborated workshop called :” Create the Best Version of Yourself ” and we had 10 amazing souls joined us.
Of course it started with my travel escape story, along these wild traveling year, I realized that it was not merely about my passion for travel but rediscovering the entire concept of TRAVEL, TRAINING , and eventually TRANSFORMATION.
To celebrate my traveling years – 4 years in 40 countries, I chose the below paragraph to share with you.
“At home , you are conditioned to get to the point and get things done, to favor goals and efficiency over moment by moment distinctions. On the road, you learn to improvise your days, take a second look at everything you see, and not obsess over your schedule.
Stay organized and interested, Watch and listen to your environment, take pleasure in small details and differences. Look more and analyze less, take things as they come. Practice your flexibility and patience.
This transition into constant travel can be compared to childhood: everything you see is new and emotionally affecting, basic tasks like eating and sleeping take on a heightened significance, and entertainment can be found in the simplest curiosities and novelties.
Your whole existence becomes a series of interesting guesses. In a certain sense, walking through new places with the instincts of a 5 year old is liberating. No longer are you bound to your past. There is no better opportunity to break old habits, face latent fears, and test out repressed facets of your personality. Socially you will find it easier to be gregarious and open-minded. Mentally, you will feel engaged and optimistic, newly ready to listen and learn. As much as anything, you will find yourself abuzz with the peculiar feeling that you can choose to go in any direction (literally and figuratively) at any given moment.
In this way, vagabonding is like a pilgrimage without a specific destination or goal- not a quest for answers so much as a celebration of the questions, an embrace of the ambiguous, an openness to anything that comes your way. If you wander with open eyes and simple curiosity, you ‘ll discover a much richer pleasure – the simple feeling of possibility that hums from every direction as you move from place to place.”
(excerpt from Vagabonding Travel book)
To me, travel is more than recuperation for body, for heart especially. Take MIND mode (city life) to the HEART mode (nature) It helps me to reassess priorities and gaining new perspectives in life . To be able to see the bigger picture in my life.
I don’t dodge obstacles and put off fires in daily grid, instead, I chose to immerse myself in my surroundings, without obsessing on my busy business mind.
I became to understand that inspiration and creativity kicks in when I unplug myself from familiar surroundings.
Most modern rich people are rich in Material things but not rich in Time Wealth, Traveling and constant learning about LIFE optimizes my experience and unplug myself from a life I can predict, thus allow me to stumble into unpredicted enviornment and experience that catch me by surprise. That surprise made me believe that I travel not to escape life, but for life not to escape me.
It’s a risk I am always willing to take. The key in all of this is to trust chance, and to steer it in such a way that I am always learning from it. Dare myself to do things that I normally wouldn’t consider – whether this means exploring a random canyon, taking up an invitation to dine with a stranger, or just stopping all activity to experience a moment more fully. There are many humble choices, each of them as bold as sky diving, that lead not only to new discoveries but to uncommon feeling of hard-won joy.
“Adventure is wherever you allow it to find you. The first step of any exploration is to discover its potential within yourself. Explore your own higher latitudes. ” Wrote Thoreau in Walden. “Be a Columbus to whole new continents within you, opening new channels, not of trade, but of thought.
You will have new adventure every single day, meeting new people on the road, but after a while you will miss some belonging, your relationship will last as long as your stay in a country, your friendship will be intense but its also short lasting. Of course, this lifestyle doesn’t necessarily suit anymore, you maybe get sick, home sick, lonely, tired, exhausted, fearful etc.
A good portion of your travel adventures will come about by accident. Some of them will be positive and serendipitous, sometimes can be downright awful. The trick to being a good adventurer is to take all such surprises in stride.
“Good people keep walking whatever happens.” Buddha. “They don’t speak vain words and are the same in good fortune and bad. ”
“The man who is truly good and wise will bear with dignity whatever fortune sends, and will always make the best of his circumstances. “. -Aristotle, ethics
Learn to treasure your worst experiences as gripping ( if traumatic) new chapters in the epic novel that is your life.”