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2015年,我要换种活法 13条值得借鉴的新年愿望

The truth is before you can shine, you have to polish yourself. My goal is to create a life I don’t need a vacation from. In retrospect, I still have a lot of areas that I need to polish myself in order to go further.
在你闪耀之前,就先擦亮自己,我的2015目标:创造一个不需要假期的人生。以下13条新年计划,如果适合你,请随意借鉴,写进你的新年计划,一起共勉,加油。
Here are a few resolutions I worked on, if that appeal to you, feel free to incorporate them into your own resolutions for 2015.
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1. 少担心琐碎的事,专注结果即可
想做的每一件事,把结果明确了,计划怎么做就容易多了。专注当下所做的每一件事,用心去做。扎实的行动比信誓旦旦宣布要做什么牢靠得多,这是我2015年首要任务。
2.只留下那些值得的人在我的生活中
圈 子决定了你是什么样的人,或者成为什么样的人。积极向上,努力奋斗的人是绝对不愿意和一群自暴自弃,不思进取的人做朋友的,如果我们够聪明或者有足够的内 在驱动力,人心所愿,无所不成。千万不要让那些人拖我们后腿,也不要让他们践踏梦想,只有知道真正想要什么,才可以为自己的人生做最棒的选择。
3.感恩之心常在,没有任何人或事是理所当然的
不 管家境有多富裕和幸运,这一切都是有因果关系的,或者叫“因果轮回,业力”,昨天的努力成就了今天的收获。每个人到我们的生命中也是有原因的,有的时候他 是来教人生的课,反之亦然。如果我们有强大的气场(俗称正能量),别人自然而然很愿意接近我们。没有人应该对你好的,珍惜那些来到你生命中的每个人,每件 事,一切都是照镜子,照出我们的不足,学习了我们就能成长。你想别人怎么对你,你也该怎么对别人。
4.听从你的内在声音,不要禁锢它
什 么是你的内在声音呢?那是你的高灵在呼唤你呢!自从你生下来开始,她就一直想要和你连接,可是,你的大脑,逻辑思维等因为种种信念系统或者外界阻扰一直禁 锢着她。如果没有办法聆听你的内在声音,你就无法真正成为你生命的主人,从而无法创造出你梦想的人生。你绝对可以成为最棒的自己,只要你愿意听从内在声音 并付诸行动。
5.少找借口说谎和自欺欺人
谎言是生活中不可缺少的一部分,有谁能说我这辈子就没撒过谎吗?我的新年愿望就是尽可能避免为自己的谎言找借口,即使是为了防止伤害别人的白色谎言,最可怜的就是自欺,比方说某件事情明明是你做错了,认识到错误,改就好了,严于律已的人值得精彩的人生。
6.不和不可能成为你生活伴侣的人谈恋爱
我 可是用了双重否定,经验之谈,不要再浪费青春在不对的人身上了。如果你的恋爱对象和你没有共同核心价值观或兴趣爱好,即使因为某种化学物质,激情过后,谈 的就是三观,谈不拢怎么成为人生伴侣呢?健康的恋爱关系会让两个人共同成长,恋爱是场修行,修的是两个人的人生道路,路越宽恋爱越有意思。相反,不适合的 恋人,会将你逼向万丈深渊。
7.多给父母有质量的陪伴
我 们的确无法选择父母,大多数的情况下,在你最穷最苦最无助最**(所有最艰难的形容词),还能陪伴你的就这两人了。让父母开心是我每年的心愿+计划。让他 们因为有你而骄傲,他们可能会因为你的那些外在成功而为你自豪,可到最后,你开心与否才是他们最关切的。虽然我经常在外旅行,为了多陪父母,我会想方设法 满足他们对世界的好奇心,选择适合他们的方式带他们旅行。在旅行中,也能潜移默化用他们可以理解的方式分享我的人生价值观和选择。即使一开始,他们不会 100%赞同,可我的开心足以让他们说 “就让这野丫头混到天涯海角吧”,到最后,他们不得不接受了那个真实的我。(心里肯定无数次想这丫头真让我们担心)。陪伴父母的时间是有限的,有一天父母 会离开我们,不要等到“子欲孝而亲不在”。2015年,我会让父母满足去欧洲的愿望。
8.即使在最困难的时候,也要对生活充满热情
人 不可能永远像打了鸡血般充满活力和热情,人都有低谷,我们不是神。只要你选择了参加某个活动或项目,就要用心参与,而且保持“饥饿感”。那些成功的人身上 最重要的素质不是聪明和能力,而是他们有足够的饥饿感,那种内在驱动力就像万有引力一样,吸引着他们成为更好的自己,低谷算什么?在逆境中,更能看出人的 能耐,选择抱怨还是改变心态,重整旗鼓,说到底,这年头智商,情商都比不过逆商。如果你找不到生活中让你有热情的事物,那么就带着热情去找她吧,否则,生 命就是淡然无味的。人生就像做过山车,到了低谷,就代表马上可以上升了,不要放弃寻找生命中的 “热情“。
9.学会有效的沟通
有 的时候,你可能是一个很棒的公众演讲者,但未必就是一位出色的沟通者。我必须承认自己缺乏有效的沟通方法,原因之一是我太爱说,听太少。事实时,不认真听 话就无法对话。宇宙中的所有组织,从个人到公司,再到国家,有效的沟通是先听清楚对方的意思,然后回答,最后确认对方是否理解你的意思,避免一知半解,曲 解或误会。最重要的是学会察言观色,听出言下之意,并且以别人能理解和接受的方式去沟通。言简意赅不拖拉,别为了自己舒服让他人受罪。如果是比较重要的场 合,在说话之前先在自己的大脑中过滤一遍。
10. 做事效益最大化,只做自己最擅长和喜欢的,其余分工给专家和行家
各 行各业都有精英,我可能不是什么技术型人才,我比较擅长的是建立各种人脉,并懂得如何为这些专才牵线搭桥。比方说,如果在朋友圈看到别人需要帮忙,即使自 己暂时没有资源,也可以在自己的朋友圈呼吁帮忙,一个小小的举动会给别人热心的感受。一个人的精力很有限,平均每个人经常联系的不会超过10-15人,如 果等到有事才找人就显得无比被动,别人也只是敷衍了事而不会真心帮助到你。人的关系都是需要培养的,平时不浇水的植物,怎么可以期待他发芽结果呢?
如 果你做的事远远超过你需要做的,或者一件事明明花一个小时可以完成,你却用了半天,你就是在浪费时间,精力和资源了。总是埋怨”忙“的人通常都是做事不够 聪明的人。自己不擅长的事,就交给擅长的人去做吧,做好自己最擅长和最爱做的事,否则就是浪-费-生-命,交给别人做并不代表脱手不管,肩负起监督和鼓励 的工作,大家为你做事也心甘情愿呢。
11.做事不能虎头蛇尾,不值得做的事情坚决不做
对 我而言,2014年最难攻克的就是这条,作为射手座的我,只要好玩的或者新鲜的事情都愿意去尝试,但一直很难去完成某件事,“喜新厌旧”成为我的拿手活。 这可真不是闹着玩的,如果不改变,就永远很难向成功者看齐。为了让自己着手做的每一件事都有一个完整的结尾,我决定2015年只做值得我完成的事,说到做 到,比如列举了这13条新年计划,我就必须一一完成,否则随便你们怎么收拾我。
12.爱自己,更要关心他人的感受
我是非常爱自己的,所以我容易忽视和我亲近的人的感受。我承认我错了,到了三十而立,阅读了那么多书,经常冥想的我决定2015年将是关-怀-他-人之年,我会放下自我,重新调整,学会关心那些需要我的人。
那些不够爱自己的人,要学会先爱自己,因为如果你连爱自己的能力都没有,又怎么会爱他人呢?一旦你成为一个“有爱的人”,爱的能量会让你变得更丰盛,更招人喜爱。
我们每天都和人打交道,别人只会记得你给他带来的感受,因此,我们要相信,能给别人带来幸福和爱是人生很重要的功课。
13. 继续鼓舞别人,影响更多愿意完善自己的人
非 常感谢你看完我的新年愿望+计划。你可是为数不多能坚持读完通篇的人哦,与其说我做微信,拍环球视频是为了博得更多的用户,还不如说我只愿找到那一部分懂 我,和我想法一致的忠实挚友。2015年,我愿意用我的心去写文章和拍摄,希望你可以通过我的记录看到更美的世界,我会用视频真实还原这个世界给你。
每一个人都有自己的梦想,爱好和殊途,我也愿意帮助你找到属于你的那条路,并鼓励你坚持走下去。打开你的心,微笑着活出最棒的你吧!
爱你的,
FlywithMaggie
Live Your Dream,Share Your Passion
“My curiosity to the world gives me strength so that I can fly with no fear.”
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(新年心愿单吐槽为主,转载请先告知我,感谢!)
1. Spend less time worrying about trivial things, FOCUS on the outcome.
Imagine what outcome you want to have, then plan how to make your way there. Focus on one thing at a time and do it mindfully, solid actions speaks much louder than solemn promises.
2. Only keep those individuals in your life who deserve to be there
I can’t emphasize this more, your circle of close friends determine who you are and who you become.A go-getter will never want to hang out with a person who is complacent and unmotivated. If you’re smart and hungry, there’s nothing you can’t accomplish.Don’t let those people drag you down. Don’t let them trash your dreams. You deserve to make the best choice.
3. Don’t take things or people for granted. Appreciation and gratitude is never enough.
No matter how lucky you are or how rich your family is, everything happens for a reason,or KARMA. What you are today is the result of what you have done yesterday. People come to your life for a reason, you can learn from them, or you may teach them a lesson. If you have an amicable energy, people will be easily drawn to you.Never take that for granted, treasure whoever comes to your life, after all,they are just mirrors, they reflect who you are inside. Treat them the way you wanna be treated. “Thank you” is never overrated.
4. Trust your inner voice and unleash it
What is inner voice? It’s your higher self’s calling. It wanted to connect with you since you were born, however, your logic mind & brain ignored it because of certain belief system and external blockage. Without the ability to unlock it,you’ll never have enough control over your life to create the life you dream of. You have the ability to live however you wish. You just need to believe you can and act upon on it.
5.Create fewer reasons to lie to others, and never lie to yourself
Lying is apart of life, we make white lies all the time to protect people we think we could. Some lies are necessary while others are neither necessary nor moral.It’s always best to avoid lying whenever possible. The worst is to lie to yourself, if you do that, you are the biggest fool of your life. You take full responsibility of your life. So treat it seriously.
6.Say NO to lovers who will never transition into life partners
Don’t waste your time on lovers who don’t share the same core values with you. You won’t be young forever, focus on healthy relationships, those will help you grow as a person instead of killing your energy and precious time. It is counterproductive to have a bad relationship that you know it won’t lead anywhere.
7. Spend more QUALITY time with parents
Yes, you cannot choose your parents, they are the only two people in the world who won’t abandon you at your worst situations.
Make parents happy and proud to have you as their kid. Take them out for a lovely vacation. Explain your value systems to them in a way they can accept or understand. They don’t necessarily need to 100% agree with your lifestyle or life choices, but at least you need to tell them you are happy with whatever choices you make and take full responsibilities of them. Trust in time your parents will accept who you really are.
The older you get, the more important family becomes, and the more you regret missing out on all the times you could’ve spent together. One day your parents won’t be in your life any longer. Don’t pay filial piety when it’s too late. I will continue creating more travel memories with my parents because that’s the way they like it.
8. Live life passionately even during low time
Be engaged with every activities you choose to attend. Be passionate and stay hungry. The most important element of any human that separates their level of success from is HUNGER. It is your inner drive that pulled you to be a better person. If you think you don’t have anything to be passionate about, be passionate about finding something worthy of your passion. Don’t remain stagnant. Don’t give up seeking it. Because without passion, life is plain and pointless. Even during low time, you need to give yourself a chance to get motivated again. Life is indeed a roller coaster ride, don’t stay at the bottom too long.
9. Learn to communicate effectively
Sometimes one can be a better public speaker than a personal communicator. I have to admit sometimes I am lacking of effective communication skills. I do love talking more than listening. But in order to have a better conversation, listening plays a much crucial part.
From the smallest of organisms, to relationships, to companies, to countries, to the entire universe and existence itself. Communication is less about what you say and more about what the other party takes from that. Learn to ask whether the other party understands you or not before moving on to the next stage.
10. Maximize work efficiency,delegate or leverage to SMEs (Subject Matter Experts)
If you do more than you need to do, or spend more time doing things than you need to do them, you’re being wasteful. You’re cheating yourself out of time, experiences,energy and all that comes with these things. Strive to work smarter than busier. Life is too precious to spend on things you aren’t good at them.Delegate or leverage to SMEs, but doesn’t mean you let go of it, you are still the supervisor and project leader.
11. Finish what you started and don’t start things that aren’t worth finishing
“Follow it though” is the biggest challenge of my 2014. I love to start something new and exciting, but I don’t do a good job finishing it. In order to finish it up with a happy ending, I decided to start something only if I know I can finish it well. Otherwise it’s a waste of time and money.
12. Love yourself and show more caring to others
I feel like I love myself too much that I don’t care enough of the people who are the closest to me. Guilty as charged. After years’ of meditation practice and reading, I decided next year will be my year of caring. Instead of focusing on my own success, I will put my ego away and start to care people who need my attention.
On the other hand, there are people who care too much of others and forget themselves. If you don’t know how to love yourself, how can you love others. Become a person you love, then your love energy will affect others.
We are interacting with people all day long. People only remember how you make them feel. Likewise,we want to believe that we matter more than just to ourselves — and that canonly be accomplished by bringing love and happiness into the lives of others.
13.Keep inspire more people and make a huge impact on people who care about improving their lives
For FlywithMaggie viewers: I only want small dedicated fans instead of bigger number of fleeting followers. I will continue to inspire more people.
Feel your heart with me when you read my article. I am not asking you to do exactly the same. Everyone has their own journey, you should find yours, and stick to it.Fly with your heart open and soul smiling.
(新年心愿单倾力制作,转载请得到本人允许,感谢)

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